Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Lessons Learned

At work whenever a project is finished, there is always an open forum for "Lessons Learned." In life we may not have a lesson's learned every hour or even every day, but I can easily come up with a learned lesson each week. So I've decided that beginning Tuesday (My 31st birthday), I will begin a "Lesson's Learned Birthday Resolution" in which I record my lessons learned each week.

To start with a clean slate, I am saying my lesson's learned since Adam turned one and became a rambunctious and lovable toddler.

Lesson 1:
Losing your temper gets you nothing but regret.

Lesson 2:
When dealing with a toddler, the word "no" can sometimes only get you so far. When that fails, turning him in another direction and saying "walk away," "let go," or "leave it alone," is much more effective.

Lesson 3:
One day your kid likes one meal, the next it's pushed away. Focus less on making what you think they will eat and more on what is good for them or best for you that day. They will surprise you. (I'm referring specifically to the broccoli Adam scarfed down tonight at dinner because it was the easiest for me to make).

Lesson 4:
Just when you think you have a brilliant idea, be prepared to be proven wrong. When you believe that you will read your kid a book while he's taking a bath in order to keep him from ripping the pages out of said book . . . he will poo in the bathtub.


Lesson 5:
Never assume that your kid has grown out of the age of needing an extra set of clothes when you leave the house. Adam will have an extra outfit in the car until he is 18 years old. After that, he's on his own.

Lesson 6:
Your child can get hurt anywhere and with anyone (no matter how much you trust them). The important thing is to choose wisely and when it happens, try to find ways to keep it from happening again.

Those are my first 6. We'll see how many lessons learned I can come up with in the next 52 months of me being 31 and Adam being 1.

Complaining


This was not the afore mentioned bath incident. Shannon was bathing him and I snuck in with a camera. Adam only poos in the tub when I'm bathing him.

Sunday, June 26, 2011

Sunday

Today Adam woke up at 6:30 am. I laid in bed and closed my eyes and tried to will him to go back to sleep for at least another hour. It didn't work, but he did wake up happy... Until I dressed him in the new overalls I bought him.

He HATES them.

So I took him outside to try to distract him, and that worked...
CHEESE.

 I played with some of the features on my new camera...



After he stepped in dog crap, we went back inside and Shannon got him ready for me to take him to Mike and Lisa's house to practice "swimming."








lemonade


MORE lemonade

Texting at the pool.



He was telling me a very animated story about his cup.

Secret Spot.
We didn't swim long, but he loved being outside for a while. We came home and now he is napping... While we were gone Shannon cleaned the backyard, so we may give that another shot after his nap and snack.

Saturday, June 25, 2011

Adam and his Eli


From the moment that I got pregnant Eli and Adam had a bond. Eli frequently sat on my lap -- that part was not new. Gus sits on my lap too. I started to notice from the moment I felt flutters that Adam kicked and moved the most when Eli was around. When Gus came around... nothing. Eli? All kinds of excitement. Every. single. time. 

When Adam was born, Eli would stick around for the screaming, the patting, the pulling. He won't tolerate it forever, but he doesn't run in a panic out of the room, either. And while Eli has no patience for me sometimes and will bite (love bite), he has never come even close to losing his patience with Adam, even through the ear pulling and the squealing, and Eli even sticks around while I wrestle with Adam to try to keep him from trying to "ride" Eli.

Today I finally got a picture of the two of them together. It was like they had a psychic bond and decided to look at the camera at the same time.
Adam and his Eli.
I have a feeling that the second Adam moves out of his crib, Eli will be a permanent fixture at the foot of his bed. Shannon is looking forward to that since he says there isn't enough room in our bed anyway.
Big smiles

Adam's "New" Things

Adam loves to have his shoes put on. He'll bring them to us and lift his foot or sit in my lap for me to put them on. Sometimes he'll bring one, wait until you put it on, then go and find the match and come back with it. Sometimes he'll already have a pair of shoes on and come back with another pair and want both pairs on his feet. But in the car, if you're going somewhere that will take longer than 2 minutes, he'll pull them off and play with them.



Adam has learned to kick the soccer ball, to throw the football for Caley (well, at Caley), and has taken to throwing his toys. Sometimes he'll get right up in my face while I'm sitting on the couch and hurl a heavy wooden puzzle piece (usually the goat) right at my head. We're working on that one. His climbing skills have only improved since he's grown about an inch and a half in the last 3 weeks. It is a never-ending battle to keep him from climbing on the couch, standing on it, and then trying to scale the back of it.

It takes one time for Adam to see you do something that he likes for him to pick it up and never, ever forget. We have tall cabinets in our kitchen and I use a step stool sometimes to reach some of them. I made the mistake of moving the step stool and stepping up on it while Adam was in the kitchen. His eyes got big and he smiled like he'd won the lottery, then proceeded to move the step stool all over the kitchen and stand on it to reach all of the forbidden counter top items he's always wanted . . . knives, forks, scissors, etc. Our habits had to change fast, and the step stool promptly left the kitchen (and when he finds it randomly in the house, he returns it to the place he learned to use it).

Adam will race you two places if the door is open: the Sunroom, and the master bedroom. He sees if the door is open, looks at you first with his Cheshire grin, and takes off. If you race, he giggles. If he loses, he shrugs and turns around (at least it was a game).

Adam does not like peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. He doesn't like leftovers, and he's not a huge fan of pizza. The only foods that he will consistently eat when you put them on his plate are: Toast, Banana, Waffle, Yogurt, Mandarin Oranges, Peaches, Green Beans, Peas, and Hamburger Helper (beef stroganoff) or Tuna Helper (any flavor). We have a 90% success rate with spaghetti, applesauce, cheese slices, and turkey or ham lunch meat. Goldfish now outrank Ritz Crackers in the snack department. We introduce many different foods to him, but if he's just not in the mood or doesn't like the main course, we usually just throw extra peas or green beans on his plate and he's perfectly happy with that.

His favorite toys are the shape ball, his books, and a toy gumball machine that he got for his birthday. He likes figuring out which buttons to push to make things happen. He also has no shame in pushing whatever button, opening whatever drawer or door, flushing whatever toilet -- the excitement far exceeds any hint of shame that he could have done something wrong.

Adam gives himself time outs frequently now. Today he climbed onto the couch next to me and stood up and grinned at me, so I picked him up and put him down. He yelled at me and gave me his best, "But I really, REALLY want to!" face. I ignored it. He cried for a little bit then went into the kitchen for a few minutes and stood against the wall, I guess to give himself cool down time. After a few minutes we peeked into the kitchen and asked him what he was doing... he smiled and ran back in to play, happy as could be.


Adam is full of life, full of energy, and is the ultimate free spirit. He is imaginative, quick to make friends, and quick to laugh. He will be 14 months old the day that I turn 31.

In Recent News

Let's see, what's new?

The daycare told me earlier in the week that they are moving the two biters from Adam's class . . . on July 5 (two weeks). He hasn't been bitten since then, and next week he will only be at school for 3 days before our vacation to San Antonio (Sea World and catching up with friends) and then Austin (more great friends, barbecues, and Georgetown fireworks). We'll be back on July 5 and Adam will be back in school on the 6th, hopefully in a biter-free class.

Although I have been annoyed with the biting and the negative impact it has on Adam when we bring him home those days, he LOVES his teacher there - Tiffany is bubbly and personable, and she tells me all about Adam and what he does during the day. (Unlike multiple other teachers he's had who are confident that "he had a good day," is enough detail for a mother who desperately wishes she could spend the entire day with him too). If he has to go to the other room for a little bit (the infant room and mobile infant room are separated but have connecting doors), he apparently throws some incredible fits for Tiffany. He has claimed her lap as "his" lap and is territorial about who else gets to sit with her -- which is no one. He approaches other kids who make the attempt to sit in her lap, rearranges them like he rearranges our kitchen furniture, gives them a look that says (as she puts it), "She's mine. Get your own," then sits in her lap and grins at her with his Cheshire cat smile that he uses when he's being especially cute with a dash of ornery.

Tiffany says she loves it and thinks it's hilarious. I was initially concerned about it seeming a little like "bullying," but then realized that these might be the same kids trying to take chunks out of his arm so I say let him have at it.


In other news, on Friday morning Shannon had his wisdom teeth out. Compared to my experience where I moaned in pain for 3 days and only ate mashed potatoes, Shannon was in and out in 45 minutes (LITERALLY), came home and was fine. He's living off of soup, snack packs, and yogurt, and is desperate for something "real," but otherwise seems to feel great. Yesterday I assumed he was still just numb from the anesthesia and that today would be worse... but he is currently vacuuming the entire house. I guess I've figured out where Adam gets his toughness and superhuman strength. Shannon says he's not even in pain - his mouth is a little "tight" but it's nothing big. I ran errands with Adam this morning and came home and Shannon was gone . . . and when he came back he had apparently gone out to buy my birthday gift. He then gave it to me 9 days early.

Shannon has always been an incredible gift buyer. He always knows what I want and he puts great thought into what he buys in general. He got me the Nikon S9100 - it's a point-and-shoot 12.1 mp digital that is WAY better than my 5 year old Sony. It's a small step up from typical point-and-shoot, but not quite as bulky (or expensive) as a DSLR. And unlike many DSLRs, it has 1080p HD video. It's perfect for what we need right now. It even has a "smile timer" so maybe I will capture more of Adam's already frequent smiles (yes, there are several that I've missed!). I've discovered that hinting about something for 6 months can be pretty effective. He gave it to me early so I could learn to use it and have it ready for our vacation.

Adam and I then went out to Best Buy to get a memory card and a case for the camera. Here are some pictures that I was able to get today:

First picture I got on the camera.

Adam's Eli


Adam's Caley

Mom... seriously.

little charmer

Being silly with his tongue.

Reading his new book.

One of my favorites of Adam's facial expressions. Excited to be alive.

Monday, June 20, 2011

Retaliation

I say this with the utmost control in my actions but with an extreme lack of control in my words.

There is a baby under the age of 18 months who is about to be bitten by a 30 year-old woman. It will hurt, and we'll see how he likes it.

4 bites in 2 weeks is absolutely ridiculous. Absolutely ridiculous.

He came home and immediately got a band aid, a popsicle, and I'm making him his favorite dinner - Hamburger Helper Beef Stroganoff.

another mickey mouse band aid, a popsicle in one hand and a pacifier in the other.

The face of a guy in desperate need of a popsicle!

At least HE'S still smiling a little.

This face is making me not want to drop him off anywhere ever again.

Anyone free to hang out during the day with a charming little boy who loves daycare but can't fend off the nasty little biting jerks there?

Saturday, June 18, 2011

Kisses

Today Adam mimicked me giving the smoochy-face and that's been our game all day. When he "actually" kisses, he still comes at you with the big open-mouthed attack, but we're getting there...

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Bitten Again

It's never a good sign when you run into the daycare teacher in the hallway as she's leaving for the day and she stops you and says reluctantly, "I have bad news again."

Sigh. Bitten again. This one looked painful too. He was bitten on his right wrist and the teethmarks were close together like it pinched. This was the third bite in a week.

Adam is weaing a Mickey Mouse band aid to cover the bite marks.

Having a popsicle on the back patio to take the edge off.

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

New Toy

I have come to firmly believe that toys are loved the most when they have been loved by another child first. Pretty much every one of Adam's favorite toys have been donated to us by another family who has already used them.

This weekend, while I was curled up in a miserable ball on the couch, our friends Chris, Lily, and Emily lovingly donated one of their old outdoor toys. It's a Little Tikes slide and kind of jungle gym thing, and it is a hit. If I could bottle up the joy that filled Adam's face for the first 2 hours he played on it, I could sell it and make millions.

He stomped on it and climbed on it and squealed and smiled and crawled under it and was just ecstatic about his new toy, which he got to play with in the air conditioned comfort of our living room because a) I was barely functioning and was attempting to spend a little time outside of bed with the guys (and Shannon brought it in so I could enjoy his playtime too), and b) it's really REALLY hot outside.

Our new challenge is teaching him to actually use the slide as a slide and not as a ramp. He insists on walking down the slide instead of sitting and enjoying the ride.

More pictures will come, but these are ones I caught on the cell phone. Thank you, thank you, thank you Chris, Lily, and Emily! You guys are the best.